Validating caring for others
It’s painful to admit that I told my client I wasn’t the right person for the job and referred the person to someone else.
Yet still I worry that I am not going to be good enough or sound intelligent enough to be a co-contributor.
I can’t tell you how many people have asked me why, as a man, I care so much about internalized sexism.
In fact, some studies show that children can show signs of empathy and concern from a very early age.
In other words, parents have the power to nurture, guide, show and instill -- to teach kindness, responsibility, and gentleness in a rude and violent world.
(Originally published as Girls, Women, and Internalized Sexism: chapter 8 of the book Internalized Oppression: The Psychology of Marginalized Groups, edited by E. I have a masters degree from a prestigious university. And still as I write my part for this chapter, some part of me is already judging, comparing, and deferring to the primary author who is a man.
) Notice how it comes up when I start writing this chapter. I have worked with hundreds of women and girls around the world.
The desire to get people to like me motivated the majority of my choices and actions in early life.
Queen of social chameleons, I mastered the art of telling people what they wanted to hear and being someone they would find impressive—all the while worrying incessantly about what others thought of me, fearing criticism, and holding myself back as a result.
Also for your consideration: "Distemper and the Caterpillars" by Sharleen Collicott "Manners of the Heart at Home" by Jill Rigby -- Everyday courtesies, communication skills, and table manners for children Kids' etiquette, children's good manners at the table, on the telephone, polite kids, teaching respect, financial etiquette, good sportsmanship, help for parents and teachers from the experts, and a surprise from a famous 16-year-old schoolboy: Actions really do speak louder than words.
Parental role modeling helps teach children to be caring and kind.
When I first started building my coaching business, this craving for acceptance caused me to hide from opportunities where the potential for reward was high, but the possibility for criticism was equally large.