From left, Estelle Bennett, Ronnie Spector and Nedra Talley Ross in New York in 2007 at the Ronettes’ induction into the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame. Bennett, who died last week, struggled with anorexia and schizophrenia, and was sometimes homeless.

For a few years in the mid-1960s Estelle Bennett lived a girl-group fairy tale, posing for magazine covers with her fellow Ronettes and dating the likes of George Harrison and Mick Jagger.

The positives are that you get to date and you get to be taken out places. ESSENCE.com: Do you enjoy having multiple suitors at the same time? It's a fantastic ego boost on days when you wake up and your hair is disheveled. )ESSENCE.com: What would a guy have to do to impress you on a date? At this point in my life I’m looking for a partner and husband not a boyfriend. I check to see if his past relationships have been published on Instagram or on Twitter, and if they have, no ma'am—I’m good on that! You can say I'm flirting if you catch me smiling more than twice.

Ever since a family friend did it when I was younger, I was like, I'm never doing that.

ESTELLE: I think singing at your own wedding is weird.

Their heavy mascara, slit skirts and piles of teased hair suggested both sex and danger, an association revived most recently by Amy Winehouse. Bennett’s death last week at 67 revealed a post-fame life of illness and squalor that was little known even to many of the Ronettes’ biggest fans.

In her decades away from the public eye she struggled with anorexia and schizophrenia, and at times she had also been homeless, said her daughter, Toyin Hunter.“I want to know who my mother was,” Ms. “From the time I was born she suffered with mental illness; I never really got to know Estelle in a good mental state.”Those who knew Ms.

'If you don’t love it, cool.’America does love it though; Estelle is in a short line of British artists – like Dizzee Rascal and De La Soul – who made it across the pond.

‘The problem is we go there and conform to them and don’t be us,’ she says, animated.

The fact that people can relate to what I’m singing is a good thing. EBONY: On , you’re writing a love letter to yourself. I think I hit a point a few years ago where I was like, “Whatever comes is gonna be good,” and that I have nothing to fear. When you are happy with yourself and you remind yourself of that, it is healthy for your relationship. EBONY: Some the R&B singers today at the top of the charts happen to be White.

Estelle: This album is about me being cool with myself and being in this single space. The other person has nothing to do but take you at your word and what you show them. You didn’t give that person a chance to fall in love with the real you. You’ve got to fall in love with yourself before anyone else does. There’s been a lot of talk about the future of R&B. Estelle: I am loving D’Angelo’s new album, Alexandra Phanor-Faury is a Haitian-American writer living in Brooklyn, New York with a slight (OK, major) addiction to fashion and pop culture.

We were pissing around and he came in and started two-stepping. We didn’t think it was that hot - I was like ,’ Estelle exclaims when we ask her how she is in Wolof, the official language of Senegal, where her mother is from and where some of her family still live.