Newly dating ideas
Note from Donna: As the holiday season closes in and you find youself rushing around and overwhelmed, take a moment to kick back and check out some of these unusual (and sometimes hilarious) finds!
If you have gift ideas of your own, please share them with others. Over the past month or so, I have come across some interesting items related to post-divorce parties, celebrations and gifts. Perhaps this idea might appeal to the very “well-healed”.
Although having a weekly date may seem like a no-brainer, many couples’ good intentions quickly get put off to some future time, when life is not so busy or there’s more money.
Pretty soon the kids are grown and couples find they’ve grown apart. It doesn’t have to always be on the same night, but it’s helpful to pencil in one night each week on your calendars; you can always change the night if a conflict comes up.
If you’re already the risk-taking type, do something responsible, for example, pick up litter around a park or volunteer at a soup kitchen together.
Try star gazing in your own back yard or out in the country. If you’re the scientific type, you might get a star map and try to identify constellations. You get the drinks, the snacks, his/her slippers, favorite game, etc. Just make sure that you alternate the favor sometime soon.
If he tells you he already has plans or doesn't want to see you on that day — take note. Blog Spot Whether or not you decide to spend the holiday together, be realistic.
Maybe you're not that into V-Day and could care less or maybe he's not into it either, but his apprehension could be a sign that he'll never be ready to make you his Valentine. We've been guilty of believing that V-Day holds mystical powers that could transform even the most aloof of man into a rose-bearing Romeo — and we've learned the hard way that, no, it doesn't.If you see someone who looks sad or distressed say a prayer or lend a hand. Even if you don’t exchange shoes, at least change roles for the evening. Turn off your cell phones, computer, the TV, and the lights. It need not be original, just something you took the effort to find. If tent camping is a new experience for you, try it, you might like it. For fun you might want to randomly read a sentence from each of your respective books and see what bizarre combinations this makes. Share what you find physically attractive about your spouse. Each spouse privately creates a funny costume from what you have around the house. Let go of any inhibitions about being neat and tidy. Find someone who does and volunteer to rake theirs. Use your imagination to see what’s left to do without electricity. It doesn’t have to be one of those fancy, expensive parks. Do those silly arcade games like skee ball or whack-a-mole. Build something together – ice cream sundaes, a pizza with your favorite toppings, a tower of blocks. Take an early morning or evening bike ride together. Stop at a quaint café for breakfast or get an ice cream cone or other treat along the way. Borrow a tent, sleeping bags, and some advice from a veteran camper and spend a night in the woods – or at least a backyard. The Bible may not seem like a date book but try sharing your favorite passage with each other. During the dark of winter, make some light together. In my opinion, some of them are respectable, others are pretty far out there, and a few are bizarre or just sort of crass. How about celebrating your divorce with a memorable party in Tuscany, Italy?You bring your friends, and the vendor will take care of the rest. So, maybe you're kinda-sorta seeing a guy, but you haven't quite DTR-ed (our shorthand for "defined the relationship") yet.