For this discussion refers to your first message in online dating.This will include whatever method the service you are using allows you to write a message to another member.Avoid the same mistakes and better your chances of finding a partner online!

———————————————————— Of all the things that clients (especially men) ask me to help them with, the most common query involves assistance with writing introductory emails.

After all, most people’s profiles don’t exactly give you a ton of material to work with, do they? Ask yourself if what you’re writing sounds completely original.

As I discuss in my free online dating guide, successful online dating relies in part on making great first impressions.

Whether the first impression is in the photos you select for your profile, how you describe yourself, or the first email you write, taking time to make the best first impression is important.

Let's be honest: the search for true love eventually leads to sex.

"Hey, I like collecting chopsticks, you like collecting chopsticks! ;-)" One last thing: use emoticons and acronyms, but use them sparingly.

We found that women on the other sites were often inactive (created a profile, never logged back in) or fake.

On sites such as e and Match.com, we came across very few fake profiles (if any at all) and never had a problem finding women that were active on the site.

It’s a joke and, as we all know, people like people who make them laugh. I can fix your computer, landscape your backyard and probably even hotwire your car, but, for some reason, Ti Vo programming seems to elude me as well. Playing it safe is fine, but if an attractive person has dozens, if not hundreds, of options, you need to shake things up a little bit to break through the clutter. Interesting piece, which I’ll have to parse at length when I have the time…but it leads me to throw out a theory I’ve been kicking around.

We understand the situation you’re in right now because we once were in your shoes. Unfortunately, they don’t tell you about the negatives of their site.

This advice may still be helpful for sites such as e Harmony or Chemistry.com, however these services guide the communication and there is less “emailing” early on.