While there are many possible reasons, it might be an issue of pacing.

I met Alice, Gary and their three kids at a Caribbean resort.

When I asked how the couple met, they turned to each other with sparkles in their eyes.

Benda didn’t question his 17-year-old girlfriend when she took a naked picture of herself in the mirror on his cellphone. “I didn’t think.” Now, her former boyfriend is facing serious consequences.

The photo is a reflection of her and Benda, his hands covering her body. The girl later told a Dakota County judge that she had forgotten about the picture until police came to her house and asked about it. Benda was convicted of felony child-pornography possession and is awaiting sentencing.

Our romantic culture generally consisted of hanging out with mates down the pub, doing some drinking, and then sort of somehow ending up with one of them and not really discussing the matter until six months in.

But with the ascent of online dating – which is reportedly now the way one in five relationships start – we have become a date-centric society, particularly in London where it seems that anyone who’s single is on Tinder.

More often than not, physical intimacy in the very early stages of a relationship diminishes the potential for loving and lasting.

Do you or someone you know who is looking for a serious relationship, have affair after affair that lasts anywhere from three days to three months, and can’t figure out why?

But it was Sex and the City that instilled in us the notion that there was something a bit wrong with you if you didn’t want to have sex with somebody after a couple of cocktails and a dinner date.

Looming large in my mind to this day is the episode where Carrie starts dating Aidan.

If you are acting like Alice and Gary – jumping into the sac and hoping that a true relationship will come of it, you’re probably finding that the “sac” has plenty of holes.◊♦◊As a culture, we have forgotten the power of physical intimacy and the vulnerability it evokes.