The number-one thing to keep in mind when deciding when to introduce a new partner to your kids is timing after your divorce. Even if both of you are in love and seem to have a lot in common, breakups are common and kids get caught in the crossfire.

I get questions like this from my female friends all the time.

What bothers me is that some people truly believe that what can be perceived as baggage or a challenge truly prevents good guys from entering a relationship with them.

To help make the transition from mommy or daddy to date, lover, boyfriend or girlfriend, stop thinking of yourself as just a parent, and start thinking of yourself as an attractive, devastatingly sexy single.

To help boost your confidence, take more care with your appearance than you might be in the habit of doing.

But it also meant he had little time to spend with me. He worked weekdays so our time together was short and after work. Our relationship was too new for me to wake up in his home as if I were his child's new mommy. I didn't want to sacrifice that aspect of a relationship, so we went our separate ways. That includes my friend Lulu's "hot" friend who just so happens to be newly divorced.

One of the most common questions divorced parents ask me is: When should I introduce my new partner to my children?

Renowned researcher Constance Ahrons, who conducted a 20-year study of children of divorce, concluded that most children find their parent’s courtship behaviors confusing and strange.

remembers the conversation she had with her two sons following one of their regular visits with herex-husband.

Allow me to invoke my British accent, wear my ocular, stick a pipe in my mouth, and yell,"That's rubbish!