My intensity and pugnacity seem more palatable to them, or less threatening. Perhaps their Europeanness makes them seem temporary—they’re bound to go home—and keeps me from falling in love.

This is because a higher percentage of Black women are divorced and widowed than men.

Also in 2014 just under half or 48% of black women had never been married which is up from 44% in 2008 and 42.7% in 2005.

Half or 50% of African Americans have never been married compared to 33% of all Americans.

After viewing the available data, we can see that although fewer black women are “now married”, more black women than Black men have been married at least once.

It’s kind of an obsession we have in the Arab community, well one of many at least, but curiosity over each others’ love lives drives afternoon tea gossip with Arab mothers around the globe.

However, one that seems to strike everyone, even baffle them is the fact that Arab women will date outside of their race. For many Arab women the choice to date non-Arabs comes from a variety of reasons, mainly the fact that they’re attracted to that person on a physical, emotional and mental level.

Our latest Exclusive is an essay by Namwali Serpell with illustrations by Lauren Tamaki. An early sign of trouble.) My first true love, my college boyfriend, was half-French, half-Egyptian. His skin color so resembled my own I would occasionally mistake his hands for mine in bed. Once, visiting him in Paris, I said, “We’re the only black people on this train,” and he said, “I’m not black, I’m French.” Bien sûr.

This story is co-funded by Longreads Members and published in collaboration with Topic, which publishes an original story, every other week. He broke my heart and since then, all of my real relationships have been with white men.

For Arabs living in North America and Europe (where the majority of the population is white) many Arab women (and men) will opt for dating a white guy. But when eavesdropping on female conversations regarding dating Arab men, other reasons come into play.