It usually falls to the neurotypical spouse to make these distinctions, because he or she is the person who has the capability of doing so.

This derives from the differences between the brains of the partners.

I cannot handle multiple tasks at the same time.” It is important that Aspergers individuals pick a college major in an area where they can get jobs.

Computer science is a good choice because it is very likely that many of the best programmers have either Aspergers or some of its traits.

This error of attribution, natural as it may feel at the time, is one of the sources of the anxiety you experience, but there is seldom intent to inflict pain in your life on the part of your AS/HFA spouse.

There is a difference in the way your brains process information, and you are the one most capable of seeing and understanding these differences; you are neurotypical.

I'm asking for help because I can't do everything myself." "You cook, I clean. I'm married to adhd and asperger for 13 years Not easy but very possible! My husband says I am his dream girl and he wouldnt change a thing about me.

This is our agreement." "You can't be around chemicals, so you have to sweep, vacuum, and do the laundry." Getting emotional usually frustrates and/or shuts my husband down. Sure we didnt know I had as when we got married or for years but it sure helps to know and learn how to communicate better.* Anonymous said...

Approximately 80% of grown-ups with Aspergers and High Functioning Autism (HFA) do not have full-time jobs – not because they can’t do the work, but because they often have difficulty being socially acceptable while they get the work done.

Countless studies show individuals would rather have pleasant and personable co-workers than a co-worker who is always right.

His difficulty managing his thoughts made rudimentary conversations minefields to be navigated.